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5 Things Most People Don’t Know About Mindful Parenting

5 Things Most People Don't Know About Mindful Parenting | mostly mindful mommy

Mindful parenting is the act of bringing your purposeful, non-judgmental awareness to everyday parenting situations. It’s about seeing your children as they are in the present moment, not as you want them to be. The most powerful aspect of mindful parenting is cultivating the ability to choose your reactions instead of reacting from habits and old patterns. Conscious interactions with your children fosters deeper connections, leading to happier families! Sounds pretty great, right?

As the terms “mindfulness” and “mindful parenting” are becoming buzzwords, misconceptions of the terms can turn people off from these concepts entirely. Me, personally? I just want to avoid projecting my own “stuff” on to my kids, and the concepts of mindful parenting help me avoid that, or at least to be more aware of it when I’m doing it!

Since I want you to take a shot at parenting mindfully so you can discover first-hand just how life-changing it can be for you and your family, I’m going to let you in on a few things.

 

1. It’s simpler than you think.

Why? You don’t need books or expensive accessories. You can do it anywhere, at anytime, for free. All you need is your attention!

 

2. It’s inclusive of all styles of parenting.

Whatever your parenting philosophy, and whether you believe in baby-wearing, formula-feeding, Montessori methods, or organic-only baby products, you can practice mindful parenting. Even better, mindful parents recognize that they aren’t any of these things 100% of the time – and that includes being mindful parents! This realization leads to relief as you stop trying to perfectly adhere to parenting “rules” and begin to parent intuitively.

 

3. You aren’t starting from scratch.

Even if you don’t have a mindfulness or meditation practice, you are already mindful. Can you recall the last time you watched a sunset as you sat, simply being? See! You might be able to pick up a heavy weight once today, but you won’t build strength unless you repeat that action several days a week. It’s the same with the mind. You must exercise your natural ability to be mindful for it to become a habit, but trust me, it’s worth the effort!

 

4. Each moment is a chance to be the kind of parent you desire to be.

Lost your cool with the kids? You don’t have to wait until tomorrow for a fresh start! Take a deep breath, and begin anew in the very next moment. Pretty cool, huh?

 

5. You don’t need to meditate every day, go to retreats, or take yoga 3 times a week to practice mindful parenting.

It’s a practice in itself, it’s own meditation. Through your attempt to parent mindfully you will benefit as much as your children. Not only will you teach them to lead more authentic lives with less stress, fear, and limitations, you will learn these lessons as well. Mindful parenting will show you more about yourself than you ever thought possible.

 

Are you sold? Good! Wondering where to start? Begin by bringing your full attention to your interactions with your children this week. Don’t try to change anything, simply notice what you notice. Believe me, this is more powerful than it sounds!

As soon as I read these 4 questions from If the Buddha Had Kids: Raising Children to Create a More Peaceful World by Charlotte Kasl, I knew I’d need to post them in my daughter’s room as an everyday reminder of how to interact with her mindfully: 

  • Who are you?
  • What do you need?
  • What is your truth?
  • How can I help you be your best self?

These questions help me to be a better version of myself when I’m with my daughter. They remind me that I am here for her, not the other way around. She is not here to give me love I’m seeking or to live out my dreams. I’m here to help guide her beautiful soul through this world, and these questions hold me accountable for that. I hope whether you’re beginning or continuing your mindful parenting practice these questions help to guide you on your journey as well!

Did this list change your perception of the term “mindful parenting”? Is there anything you’d add? I’d love to hear your thoughts below!

 
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26 thoughts on “5 Things Most People Don’t Know About Mindful Parenting

  1. Gary says:

    Very nice. I never thought of mindful parenting as a specific concept, but I see the power in it. I notice how sometimes my interactions with my daughter in some instances are “automatic”, in that I may respond a certain way without even thinking about it. By being more mindful, my interactions could be more genuine and truly “present” for that moment. Thanks for shedding more light on this!

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  2. Jessica says:

    I often try to remind myself to be more mindful with my kids. I love the list of 4 questions you shared – it’s important to have a reminder of our true purpose as parents.

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      I’m glad you liked them, thanks for stopping by!

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  3. LindseyLoo says:

    Very nice.  This was something good for me to read today.  I project more than I’d like to.  And being focused or mindful is very difficult for me.

    Glad you linked up the Mom’s Blog Party!

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      I’m glad you enjoyed it, thanks for stopping by!

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  4. Liesl Garner says:

    Oh, this is just GRAND! I love it. I have joined a book study group on The Conscious Parent, and I am learning and growing so much. I love the things this is teaching me. Just being present and fully aware of my children is a joy.

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      That’s wonderful, Liesl! Thanks for sharing the link with me, I’m not familiar with that book and I’m looking forward to checking it out!

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  5. Lloyd Lofthouse says:

    “The most powerful aspect of mindful parenting is cultivating the ability to choose your reactions instead of reacting from habits and old patterns. … You don’t need books or expensive accessories. You can do it anywhere, at anytime, for free. All you need is your attention! … Whatever your parenting philosophy”

    A breath of common sense. Thank you. I’m so tired of parenting fads that come and go due to the popular political correctness moment.

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      And thank YOU for reading, and for the kind words!

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  6. Kelly Bourne says:

    I find a lot of people instantly dismiss anything attached to mindfulness as being ‘mumbo jumbo,’ so this is a great list for squashing all of the misperceptions.

    Mindfulness is still very much a conscious practice for me, but I’ve found that it really is a game-changer in terms of parenting.  No matter how many tricks you have up your sleeve, if you can’t find presence you might as well throw them out the window.

    Also love your advice to just “notice what you notice.”  Simply noticing has lead to an amazing improvement in all of my relationships!

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      So very true! I’m glad you’ve found value in it as well, especially since it means I get to enjoy your writing!

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  7. Ntina says:

    Really helpful and interesting post. Thanks for linking up to the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Party. I have pinned your post to the Bloggers Brags Pinterest Board

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      Thanks for reading, and for hosting!

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  8. Jessica Dimas says:

    Oh my gosh, I LOVE this!! And I’ve got to read that book. I love those questions you posted on your daughters wall, how awesome. I’m totally going to write down the same questions and hang them up. Great post!

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    • the mostly mindful mommy says:

      I’m thrilled you like them too! I’m so glad I hung them up, I need reminders every day!

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  9. Shannon @ Of The Hearth says:

    I love your point that you can start fresh if you’ve lost your cool. We all make mistakes as moms, but it’s nice to remember that we can let it go and move on (trying, of course, not to repeat the mistake).

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  10. Tammy Doiel says:

    What an encouraging post that we can be mindful without making it too difficult!

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  11. Jody @easypeasymom says:

    Thanks for sharing this!  I’ve been working on trying to be more present and mindful, especially with my family.  I like how you point out that mindfulness can happen at anytime, anywhere and there are always more moments ahead to be mindful.  Thanks!

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  12. Jerry Gill says:

    This is great.  So many parent and spouses need it.  After a tiring day it is so easy to say ‘not now’ and it only takes a few to make kids stop trying.  Of course texting someone who isn’t there is always soooo important, even to adults.  And like you say, it is so easy, requires no equipment.  Just stop, slow down even, think, decide what is really important and participate in now.  Thanks.

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  13. AnnaLaura Brown says:

    Great points. I like how you point out that it only take a few minutes to make this happen and not hours per week.

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  14. Shirley Kufeldt says:

    We didn’t choose our parents but we sure learned a lot from them, both good and bad.  Hopefully we learned unconditional love.  But too many people never experience that, so they bring conditional love into relationships and parenting and those results are somewhat automatic.  So mindful parenting is a choice, a decision and ultimately a new skill that can be learned.  Thanks for pointing out the difference.

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  15. Fiona says:

    I absolutely love your blog and have followed you! What a super niche! I don’t have children but so much of what you write is applicable to anyone really.   Thank you!

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  16. Barb Spanjers says:

    Thanks for the reminder that we are not going to be 100% anything. It helps us be kinder to ourselves as well as to our children.

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  17. Gypsy LoSavio says:

    YES YES YES! My husband and I have 7 adult children between the both of us and 4 years ago our little Master Beastie decided that he wanted us to be is Earth parents — 16 years between him and the next youngest! HHOOO boy it’s a ride! So different than the single parent I was with my older 4, yet so many similarities. I love the title “mindful” parenting 😀 Honestly, it’s helped us in this new adventure and made a huge difference in how we do things with William. His siblings are awesome, too!

    I LOVE your logo, by the way! <3

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  18. Cathy Yerges says:

    A great introduction to a simple way to begin Mindful Parenting.

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  19. Melissa Roy says:

    Love how you lay out Mindful Parenting so simply, because you’re right, it really is but sometimes when we put a label on things it makes it automatically seem complicated.  Thanks for linking up with #BeyondMommyingSiS

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