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A Terrible, Awful, Wonderful, Amazing Thing Happened

I got a tweet from Lauren Ferrara telling me she wanted me to speak about mindful parenting on the local evening news. A spot on the news is something I’ve been visualizing, even going so far as to start a media 1-pager I’d never found the time to pitch. Here was the opportunity I’d been hoping for, landing right in my lap!

You may be wondering, “So where’s the terrible, awful part?” As those of you who know me personally or have been following my blog for a while already know, I struggle with a fear of public speaking. I’ve been tackling this fear for almost a year now and still my initial reaction was that perhaps I should ignore her because I was afraid.

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The One Thing You Can Do That Will Transform Your Child’s Future

The One Thing You Can Do That Will Transform Your Child’s Future | mostly mindful mommyI was not a shy kid. I loved to dance, sing, and ask LOTS of questions – in front of anyone who would listen. Then one day my mom asked me to call and order pizza and I was suddenly terrified at the thought of speaking to the stranger who would be on the other end of the line.

I dialed, and immediately hung up. Mom made it clear that there would be no pizza if I didn’t order it, and I was able to make the call.

Later that week, it happened again. She asked me to take some birthday cake over to the neighbors, and I was afraid to. Afraid they wouldn’t want it. Afraid they would think I was dumb for bringing it over. I was 8 years old, and already beginning to fear rejection from others on a daily basis. She made me do it anyway (I left the cake on their front doorstep, rang the doorbell, and ran. But it counts!).

It wasn’t until I was in my first month on the job in corporate america that I fully appreciated what my mother had done for me. I spent my entire DAY emailing people I didn’t know, calling strangers on the phone, and delegating tasks in meetings to people I’d never met, yet none of it was the slightest bit uncomfortable for me. It was then that I realized: by giving me no choice but to face my fears my mother saved me years of social anxiety.

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