I got a tweet from Lauren Ferrara telling me she wanted me to speak about mindful parenting on the local evening news. A spot on the news is something I’ve been visualizing, even going so far as to start a media 1-pager I’d never found the time to pitch. Here was the opportunity I’d been hoping for, landing right in my lap!
You may be wondering, “So where’s the terrible, awful part?” As those of you who know me personally or have been following my blog for a while already know, I struggle with a fear of public speaking. I’ve been tackling this fear for almost a year now and still my initial reaction was that perhaps I should ignore her because I was afraid.
In that moment I knew I had to do what any person on a self-improvement path does over and over and over again – I called her and set a date before I could change my mind.
We must keep doing the things that the terrible, awful feeling in our chests tell us we cannot do, because we CAN do them and the wonderful, amazing awaits us on the other side. It’s incredibly tempting to hide from these things, but we can never know our true greatness without facing them!
Reviewing just a few of my own from the past few years: my first ballet performance on a stage in front of people, teaching my first children’s meditation class, giving my Icebreaker speech in Toastmasters, oh, and giving birth! Yet despite all the good I knew came of these anxiety-inducing situations, the weeks leading up to my interview were no less difficult.
First, I told myself some unhelpful things, like:
- You can’t go because you have nothing to wear.
- What if you freeze and forget what to say?
- You actually have to wash, dry, AND style your hair. You don’t know how to do that.
- What if everyone who watches hates you?
Then I told myself some logical, but not super helpful things:
- It’s less than 3 minutes long, how bad can that be?
- Other people do this all the time, so you should be able to too.
- You’ve been in Toastmasters for a year now, this is what you’ve been preparing for!
I did do a few helpful things:
- I meditated.
- I prepared.
- I breathed.
- I reminded myself that as long as I was my authentic self and spoke from my heart all would be well.
Then I did the most helpful thing of all. I reminded myself of my purpose.
to inspire parents and families to live mindfully, deepen connections, and awaken to their authentic selves
It was then that I remembered why I’m here and that it’s my purpose to spread my message. That even if only one parent watching found my advice helpful that was all that mattered. This is why we must all face the terrible, awful things, so we can serve others and bring more of the wonderful, amazing into the world.
Besides, how can I tell my daughter how infinite her potential is if I don’t model pushing past my own perceived limitations?
So tonight, I got out there and did it. And it felt good.
(You can watch my 2-min interview here.)
Now, what terrible, awful, wonderful, amazing thing do you need to get out there and do? Let me know in the comments so I can cheer you on!
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