Last Wednesday I embarked on a trip to the Wisdom 2.0 Business conference, my first visit to NYC in over 12 years. The first time I’d be away from my daughter for more than a single night. My first mindfulness conference. Many firsts I faced alone, as I knew no one who would be there (but this didn’t matter for long).
To begin to describe the depth of the experience is an impossible task so I will sum it up briefly:
The environment held such presence you could feel it in the air, as if it was buzzing with electricity.
People were open and authentic to the point I that connected more deeply with some people in 60 seconds than I have with others I’ve known for years.
There are amazing people out there changing the world our children will be living and doing business in for the better.
But for me, the most impactful moment was when we were asked the following question:
What commitment are you going to make to change the world a year from now?
Perhaps it was the field of connection we’d strengthened in that room over the past 2 days, or the moments of silence, or the buildup of thoughtful pauses being taken by each and every speaker. I’m not sure what exactly set the stage but the answer came to me immediately in a flash of insight.
I want to be a better wife. A better mother. A better employee. A better blogger. A better coach, teacher, and business owner. I am certain that by doing these things, I can change the world.
Ah, but how? What’s the real commitment?
First, the confession.
I’m not sure if any of you have ever attempted to balance a marriage, parenting a toddler, and a professional career with building a business, coaching clients, teaching classes while also maintaining relationships with friends and family, attempting to get a reasonable amount of exercise, have some fun, and leave time for relaxation while still maintaining an acceptable state of personal hygiene, but it’s next to impossible. However, I am sure that almost all of you can relate to at least 80% of this. So as you probably know from your own experiences, here’s what’s been falling by the wayside:
- One-one-one time with my husband
- Getting a reasonable amount of exercise
- Actual relaxation time
- And sadly, time for meditation. Yep, the ^mostly mindful mommy is a lapsed meditator (good thing I gave you the “mostly” party up front, right?).
Here’s what I know: balance is impossible.
But what I can strive for, and what I believe we all have the ability to achieve is to be what I’ll call ^mostly balanced. This means that by being more mindful I can ensure I’m consciously choosing the next right thing to be doing in each moment. Fewer unconscious moments (like missing an opportunity to take a walk outside, mindlessly watching TV out of exhaustion, or zoning out on social media) will lead to more opportunities to notice when I have a few extra minutes to take a walk or connect more deeply with husband despite an otherwise full schedule. I practice mindful parenting and mindfulness in my daily life, but I also know I’m most aware when I have a daily meditation practice.
Here’s my commitment to myself, to my family, to you, and to the world:
- I’m committing to 10 minutes of meditation every single day for the next year – the #mostlymindful10. I know it can be done, and I will prove it. If I can do it, it’s possible for you too!
- I’ll be sharing pictures of when and where I do these meditations, not only as proof but also for inspiration.
- I’ll also be sharing exactly what techniques I’m using, which may not necessarily be a sitting meditation but could be walking, coloring mandalas, using an APP, and more! I’ve met so many people over the past week who are doing varied and interesting techniques and I’m curious to try them all! As I do this, I’ll be sharing them with you, along with techniques I’ve been using for years, and new techniques of my own!
Here’s what I need from you:
- I’ll be sharing details not only on my blog, but also on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram! Follow my good days and less-than-good days, and help spread the word!
- Join me! Parents, non-parents, baby boomers, millennials, men, and women alike. Come one, come all, and share your experiences and pictures using #mostlymindful10!
- Please, please, give me feedback! I want to hear in the comments on my blog and/or social media when you try these techniques. What did you like, or dislike? What worked, and what didn’t?
- Is there a certain mindfulness exercise or meditation you’ve been curious about? Point me in that direction or point them in mine!
- Most importantly, assist me as I continue to build this imperfect, real, ^mostly mindful community. Let’s support each other in this challenge!
I’m a real person. I don’t claim to have all the answers, but I believe this challenge can help us all. Are you in?
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